Newlywed Game

Today our teenage girls decided that it would be fun for Handsome Hubby and I to play the Newlywed Game. We were married in 2009 so I guess we might still be considered newlyweds.

They asked us a total of 16 questions.  We answered 2 differently.  I cannot say incorrectly because we interpreted the question differently. For example, one question was “What was the biggest surprise present he has given you?”  He answered,” A new car.” I answered, “A candle.” He forgot he even bought me a candle so many years ago and because he talked to me the whole time he was at the dealership buying me the car I didn’t think it was much of a surprise!

The other question we missed was, “Name something Cyndi does too much of.” I answered, “wash”. He said, “talk.” Oh well, we cannot win them all.

The other questions?

If you were going to bring a sweet treat to you husband/ wife, what would it be?

Who would your husband marry if he could marry any celebrity?

My spouse is a great _____, but a horrible ______.

My husband is a natural born ______.

My wife is a natural born _______.

Who is the better cook between the two of you?

Where was your first date?

How much did you spend?

If there was a fire I would grab_____. My spouse would grab _____.

You get the idea. It was a great reminder of our connection. We always are aware of our love for one another and do not take it for granted but this was a great way to show our children how connected and in love we are.  

 

 

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He said I wrote like a PRO!

Ahh…. summertime!

For us, summer translates to boat time.

I guess you could say we have two seasons here: boating and hunting.

We work as a family all week to take care of chores and maintenance around the camp so that when the weekend comes we can BOAT!

With 4 school age children at home we have daily chores, weekly chores and school work that must be completed.

Summer bridge work is very important to us here. Not the kids, the parents.

This summer it seems Handsome Hubby and I have some extra work too! Writing books! Meeting our own deadlines!

Handsome Hubby’s author page is linked here

His second book “Jesus Held Me” is a wonderful story of a terrible time in our lives.

“Prophecy of Honor”, his first book is close to becoming a “best seller” on Amazon.

He is rewriting it to add some character depth as I type this!

My second book

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will be released soon! Like real soon!

Look for the first, which I must say is not my best writing but is a story of triumph over struggles with weight. I consider it a “must read”. Don’t judge the second book based on the first.

When Handsome Hubby read the second he told me he thought a professional wrote it! His comment for the first was “get it published, it’s a great story”. Both compliments! I like being a PRO THO!

You can link to that here.

My third book will be fiction and I am scared to say the least! I may have to write under a pen name? We will see!

I cannot be SAD

Try as I might I cannot be sad. You read correctly. I cannot be sad.

For years of my life I’ve been sad. Even when I have been happy, I’ve been sad. Some of us live happy with moments of sadness. I lived sad with moments of happiness.

I’ve sat here for the past week attempting to write. Four drafts await completion as I type this. They will not be completed.

I should have known what was going on when I decided to create a Happy page on Facebook. Me? HAPPY? Creating it as a “challenge” I told myself I was trying to grow, not be negative, bring positivity to my life. Little did I know, I already had!

Blogging is cheaper than therapy and cheaper than my degree in Psychology.

Writing this past year has helped me heal. I’m not a quitter but I think I’ll give up trying to be sad!

Happy Days are here again but without Fonz

I’ve been way for a while. I actually have 4 posts waiting to be completed. Is it writers block? Maybe? Maybe I need to go back to the way the posts were originally written. Today would be “Terrific Tuesday”…..

With that thought in mind I would like to share my new Facebook page again– Happy Days Challenge. The page focuses on being happy everyday through out the day. According to the 100 Happy Days Challenge site we cannot be happy more thank 20 days in a row. This site disappointed me though. If you challenge someone to be happy for 100 days shouldn’t you help them along the way rather than set them up for failure? Happy
Days Challenge helps you learn to see differently, HAPPYily. The focus is on teaching you how to be HAPPY and then executing it! Please check it out. I would love the followers. I would love your HAPPYness!

Live Braver!

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The picture above was taken the Mothers Day before my in laws 3rd child was tragically taken to heaven.

Seeing this picture in our hallway on Christmas Eve of this year, my mother in law shared that little bit of information with my husband and I ( he is the first from the left). My mother in law is a woman somewhat “of few words”. She is very private. I will leave her story quite simply with my thought in respect to her— she has LIVED BRAVER. A strong female role model for her children. As mine has been for hers.

When I think of living braver my thoughts and memories immediately, almost selfishly, envelop me. My own personal story of living bravely. I will find a way to share it one day.

But this, this is about my sister in law, Lexlee Overton. The little girl in the picture. What is so complex about human emotions, our human brain, is one persons painful memory is another’s most glorious happiest of memories.

Recently writing a post on perception, the contrast of what my mother in law and sister in law see when they look at this one moment in time strongly stood out to me. But the similarity in the afterthought, if you will, is quite similar. It was the beginning of my mother in law living braver at a whole new level and for my sister in law it was “a reminder of being a young girl who loves openly and freely”, without fear. I’m sure to an extent the same goes for my mother in law when she looks at her precious children in this picture and was BRAVE enough to have 2 more beautiful children.

Stay with me, I do have a point.
My sister in law has created a wonderful website where we can share stories, find resources and support one another to help us Live Braver. Pleaseclick here to connect to the site.

Below I attached a small excerpt from livebraver.com.

I hope you visit the site.
Share your story!
Live Braver!

excerpt from livebraver.com
Live Braver is a resource for those seeking to step beyond the confines of fear, for those seeking a more inspiring, fulfilling, and rewarding life.

The ultimate goal: to help and to support each other in finding the courage to take steps towards a life we love.

What to expect: a community filled with people like you, who want to share their stories and to inspire others to bravely embrace their life purpose.

Be inspired

Be empowered

Be IN LOVE with your life

LIVE BRAVER.

Are you ready to Live Braver?
Live Braver is a resource for those seeking to step beyond the confines of fear, for those seeking a more inspiring, fulfilling, and rewarding life.

The ultimate goal: to help and to support each other in finding the courage to take steps towards a life we love.

What to expect: a community filled with people like you, who want to share their stories and to inspire others to bravely embrace their life purpose.

Be inspired

Be empowered

Be IN LOVE with your life

LIVE BRAVER.

Are you ready to Live Braver?

Would you be your friend?

Hey, y’all !

I have a simple question that truly requires a simple answer.

Are you or would you be your friend?

Some of us have thought about this before and others have not.
The ones that have not thought of this probably come with the hard shell that also doesn’t care what others think of them as well. Some could call them shallow, maybe egotistical. Others would say secure in who they are. Whatever the case may be, either you have given this thought or you haven’t. I say your life’s circumstances probably have not led you to ask this question if you haven’t. No matter what your core beliefs are at one time or another we question them. Well, I guess, I hope we all do, as that is a sign of growth.

A few days ago I wrote about perspective. My kids always put things into perspective for me. Simple pleasures put things into perspective. Enjoying traditions, for example. Getting hot water again after not having it since Thanksgiving ( as happened for us a week or so ago) puts things into perspective. Losing it soon after ( within an hour) REALLY put things into perspective. Waiting another week to figure out what the issue was, boiling pots and pots of water, me taking wipey baths and using (form the first time) dry shampoo puts our first world essentials into perspective.

Hot water seemed like nothing when both of my sons got sick. They had a 102-103 fever and the only other symptom was a headache. My brother at 6 weeks contracted encephalitis. Fever was his only symptom. My mom has had meningitis 3 times over the past 7 years. The 3 times occurred within 4 years. Needless to say, I do not like fevers, especially accompanied by a headache……perspective.

My oldest started with his first. He got better within 3 days. The youngest started as the oldest got better. He still has a low grade fever but seems to be doing well…..when your child is sick other things don’t matter. Your life shifts to caring for them. Your perspective on things is altered.

So to get back to my original question. As you see yourself, from your own perspective of you, would you be your own friend? If you met you would you like who you are?

I’ve asked myself this question, obviously. Looking at every nook and cranny of my being, soul searching, is time consuming as well as necessary. I have strained relations with most of my family ( there I said it…..that’s hard to admit) which has prompted my soul searching in my personal life. I could get angry and retaliate or I could become introspective. A few years ago, I would have beyond a shadow of a doubt retaliated. Not now. Why? Perspective. Believe me, I had some soul searching to do, I still want to defend myself and as much of a people pleaser I am I just want them to like me. But then I realized they never did. There is a phrase “it’s not about you”. I’ve realized their issues with me are not about me. Their issues are with them. There is nothing I can say to them to change that. Their perspective of life through their thought processes and circumstances has dictated to them the negative thoughts towards me. Unfortunately their perspective of the world is so tarnished that these people expect the worst out of people. Maybe they conduct their life the way they described what I supposedly did. Who knows? My perspective has not changed. Jesus has forgiven me more times than I can count and will continue to. Who am I not to do the same. I will continue to live my life as I do. Live for my husband and kids. The perspective of someone who has lost much and knows how fragile life is, knows how deep someone can physically and mentally hurt and knows the power of The Lord is priceless.

Would I be my own friend? For sure. Do I like myself? Absolutely.

How about you?

13 Ways To Fix Not Being Mentally Strong

Hi y’all!

It seems I’ve been a little out of sorts lately. Maybe you’ve noticed by the decline in my posts. Maybe not.

A friend of mine posted an article on Facebook “13 Things Mentally Strong People Do”.

They say opinions are like ——-, everyone has one. We also view strength by our life experiences. I’ve always felt like a survivor. I’ve NEVER felt weak, until I read this article. I do not think that was the authors intent. However, that’s how I felt. Was that weakness? According to her it is.

Strength and weakness are relative. Psych 101. Everything is relative. Some might view her article as cold, harsh and removed. Others that can relate, possibly felt empowered by it.

Needless to say, me, although I felt weakened by some of the 13 things chose to print them out and work on them. I could only feel weakened by them if I didn’t feel I possess them right?
Not necessarily. It’s just my view of mental strength was based on my life which has been good old fashioned fight or flight.

Don’t get me wrong, a lot of the “things” I do. But some I don’t. Some I’m learning and some I never looked at as a strength or a weakness. What I would have liked is for the author to help the not so strong by giving pointers on how not to continue doing what they are.

We have to love this new age of internet blogging. Sharing our views with someone next door or around the world is possible. If we are open to looking at things in a different light we have a lot to learn and our personal growth will be exponential. We are blessed to have this gift.

You can read the article here. It’s also linked above.

Here’s my take:
1: They don’t waste time feeling sorry form themselves- How to fix : make a plan to change your circumstances. Dream of what you want, where you want to be, how you want people to treat you. Imagine that is exactly as it is. When it isn’t that way. Imagine it to be anyway, one day it will be.

2. They don’t give away their power- How to fix: DO NOT take anything personally. People treat you based on the way the feel about their self, not you. You cannot take anything personally.

3. They don’t shy away from change- How to fix : think of all the changes you have gone through. There are more than you know. Also make a pros and cons list. If that still doesn’t work you pretend the change is temporary. Eventually you will get through it. Then challenge yourself to do new things every week or month.

4. They don’t waste energy on things they can’t control- How to fix: when something happens automatically think “will this matter in a year?” Realize that sometimes misfortunes happen for a reason. Nothing happens by chance. Embrace the situation. Ask what lesson you need to learn. Who are you there to
meet. These are divine interventions, to me.

5. They don’t worry about pleasing everyone- How to fix: uh, need help here!

6. They don’t fear taking calculated risks- How to fix: again make a pros and cons list, talk to people, get advice and do research.

7. The don’t dwell on the past- How to fix: Take a few moments or more. Whatever you need to visit the old you that goes to the past. Tell that person, because you are not the same, to stay where they are, that you are great where you are now. You are full of experience because of them and don’t need them any longer. Do this as often as you need to until you stop. It might sound hokey but it works.

8. They don’t make the same mistakes over and over- How to Fix: Sometimes we
make the same mistakes in different ways. If you are doing this you need a trustworthy friend or relative to help you figure out why you keep dating the same
type of person and help you not, for example. Or maybe you spend too much money? Come up with a plan to have bills automatically paid on payday and the rest going to saving. Only leaving enough for incidentals. I don’t know really. You have to do what works for you but stops the cycle too!

10. They don’t give up after their first failure- How to Fix: we wouldn’t have any modern conveniences without failure. Ask any successful person about failure. They all have. Figure out what mistakes were made and don’t do it again. You’ve made mistakes. Learning to walk, talk, write and on and on.

11. They don’t fear alone time – How to
Fix: if this is a problem for you. Start slowly by going to one place alone. Get a coffee alone for example. Expand to the movies alone. This is very good for the soul. Opens doors to meeting others as well.

12. They don’t feel the world owes them
anything- How to fix: unfortunately this society has become full of entitled
people. It might sound silly but a simple way to take this away is to take away your everyday conveniences or not live as large. It’s amazing what packing up
most of your home and living only on BARE necessities will teach you. Experience talking here!

13. They don’t expect immediate results- How to fix: this kinda goes with entitlement. “I want it now!” If you want something wait a week. If you still want it and can afford it, get it. Or pretend order things online. One thing I personally do is write my weight 5 pounds more in my weight charts to constantly strive for more. Patience is a virtue very few have.

What do you think? What are your suggestions? What would you add or take away?

Thanks for reading and have a blessed day!!!!

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